How to Avoid Self-Destructive Behavior and Grow Leadership

How to avoid Self-Destructive behavior as a successful human being? You may have noticed that in the past when you expressed an intention to accomplish something or take action, people reacted in a certain way. It might be tough to reject the advice and opinions of your closest friends or family members, especially if they have your best interests at heart.

Unfortunately, people's perceptions are heavily influenced by their own experiences and realities; yet, what didn't work for one person doesn't always indicate it won't work for another. Making the decision to go despite is both courageous and crucial.

To learn new things, we must all make errors. I recall being humiliated if I made a mistake when I first started out in my profession, because I was frequently dealing with extremely senior managers, and the shame would be enough to guarantee that I didn't do it again!

On reflection, I consider how many mistakes I've made, people I may have offended, and people who have upset and offended me; however, the lessons I've learned from these situations have all been critical to my personal growth, allowing me to be far more empathetic as a team leader and especially when dealing with young individuals.

Essentially, your attitude determines how things turn out in the future. If you have a strong want to do something and find yourself talking about it all the time but have yet to do it, you need to figure out why.

Is it something you truly desire or something that someone else desires? You must own the choice, be consistent, and have the leverage to make the change in order to advance toward your ambitions and needs.

Here are a few instances of self-destructive behavior:

• You start a healthy eating plan, but after a week, you give up and make excuses for why you can't stick to it.
• When you need to do crucial chores, you delay and divert yourself, never getting anywhere and feeling like a failure.
• You hear voices in your brain telling you that you'll never achieve and that continuing to do what you enjoy is pointless.
• You believe it when others tell you something is impossible.
• When you try to adjust your routine, you find yourself relapsing back into old habits.
• When explaining why you "can't" accomplish anything, you use the phrase "I can't" in your phrases.
• You hate the prospect of requesting a raise or debating anything someone says to you.

You must assume control in order to go on. Take command of your ship and set sail into the undiscovered world. The things that get in the way most of the time are your worries. Fear of success, failure, and rejection are all fears that people have. Fear, on the other hand, is both an illusion and a defender. Consider what you'd do if you knew you couldn't possibly fail!

Here's a little visualization for you:

Close your eyes and pick which way you want your life to go (this could be to the side, straight ahead, to the right, or even behind you).

Assume you're standing on your timeline, which is spread out in front of you, and are aware of where you are on it right now with your common sense.

Let's fast forward a year. Keep your eyes open in order to sense what's going on around you continuously. What makes your surroundings unique? Is there anything you've noticed in yourself that you don't like? What are the opinions of others about you?

Now fast forward another 5 years. You have to watch intensively what's going on around you every now and then. What makes your surroundings unique? Is there anything you've noticed in yourself that you don't like? What city do you call home or where do you work?

Now fast forward another four years. You've traveled ten years into the future. What is the kind of image you cherish to project? What exactly are you up to? How do you style your hair? What city do you call home? What occasion are you commemorating?

Take away

Even if you haven't considered where you'll be in 10 years, it's a good idea to think about your possibilities and the direction you want to take your life. Every now and again, I have to remind myself to do it! Life gets in the way, but it's critical to get back on track and create your own destiny!